Monday, August 17, 2009

Other women

Other women go off the pill according to the season or month they want to have a baby.

I never went back on the pill, and can tell you 25 reasons why any month would be perfect for a birthday. Nine months pregnant in the summer? A Christmas baby? I'll take it. Any of it, perfect.

Other women calculate what their due date would be if they got pregnant that month.

I think about when my period is due, and where I'll be when it arrives. I'll consider when my next ovulation will be, and hope I can fit a cycle in before I leave for vacation.

Other women wouldn't book a trip to Disney in 15 months, because they wouldn't want to bring a new baby.

I'm booking it as soon as I get the chance.

Other women hope for a boy first, or another girl.

I hope for a baby.

Other women stop buying clothes for themselves, knowing that soon they'll have to invest in maternity clothes.

I consider maternity pants or a bella band for my infertility-induced bloated belly, and grudgingly settle for loose tops and the rubber-band method.

Other women plan the size and timing of their families with certainty, with a sense of knowing and control. They consider things like paying for college and daycare, having two in diapers at the same time, and growing up "close."

I don't have a clue. I'll take what I can get, and I'll tell you the bright side of however it works out for us.


  1. Brilliant - I am so with you on this post! The certainty that so many women have when it comes to planning their families boggles my mind. I had one woman ask me why I chose to have my baby in November - was it a good time of year for me in terms of work? I had to laugh. It was an awesome time for the third IUI to work. Although, I will admit to calculating my due date each month. Just in case. I'm an incurable optimist - or a masochist.

  2. You forgot announcing the names of their babies before they even depart their first trimester. :-)

    sigh. all so true....

  3. Shelli, oh yes, if & when I get knocked up, I think there will be a whole pregnancy related one!

  4. I get it, oh how I get it. I sometimes wonder if I was ever that innocent. Though now when someone tells me they are pregnant I want to ask which RE they used...

    Great post!

  5. too true!! unfortunately....

  6. Yup, that pretty much sums up the divide between the fertile and not...well put!